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Sunday, October 30, 2011

Avoiding the Inversion Ritual: Why I Won't be Doing Halloween This Year

Haloween at the Massie's 2008

I always loved Halloween. From childhood, my mom would dress me up in crazy outfits, usually spooky ones, and I had a great time. I'd drag my pillowcase around our neighborhood filling it and going back three times till I had enough candy to make me sick for a week.  When I became a drama teacher, I created haunted houses with the kids. Every Halloween, hundreds students would experience the "haunted mansion" or "high school from hell".  At home, three strobe lights, a graveyard and a smoke machine was standard. Me, dressed to the vampire teeth as some witchy creature with her pet tarantula, Charlotte — and my Mom, glow stick shining through her teeth, scared the kids for hours. 

I spent bags of money on Halloween and boxes of paraphernalia are buried in our basement.  I bought only the best candy — lots of chocolate — none of that cheap kiss candy ( I always hated it). I wanted to re-create the great experiences I had when I was a kid.  That one lady on our block whose house had no lights on and when she opened her door, she was standing there holding a knife and cackling .  She was great.
Forty years ago there was no spider webbing or decorations (except for the odd jack o' lantern), and Mom made our costumes.  No one was trying to upstage anyone with decorations because the night was all about us — about the kids.

Nina, posing for her photographer :)

My mom died last October 23.  She lived a good long life — she was 93 — but she had Alzheimer's.  The last three years were very difficult.  Last year I did not celebrate Halloween, and no one seemed to mind — despite the fact that we usually get over one hundred kids at our door.  I thought this year would be different, but the anniversary of her death hit me hard and I just didn't feel like it. 

I watched my mom die.  I think it changed me. I believe people should be able to opt out of Halloween without having to explain themselves. I'm even feeling a bit resentful of the fact that I'm expected to buy candy for kids I don't know.  I'm feeling some need to put up a sign of some kind explaining myself.  Do people post signs explaining why they don't celebrate Christmas, or why they don't celebrate Valentine's day, or why they don't celebrate any other holiday?  But Halloween... if we don't have candy for the kids at the door, we have to worry about them egging our house or... something worse.  It's a kind of societal peer pressure I'm feeling, a kind of obligation. 

Yeah, I resent it.

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Marilyn Monroe and The Method

Sir Wil ILID Improv group 2008

 For years, I've taught a basic form of "Method" acting bsed on the Stanislavsky System and, for years, I have discussed with my students the dangers in misunderstanding and misusing the technique, -- created by Stanislavsky in the early 1900's. Now, we have concrete proof that Marilyn Monroe WAS psychologically and emotionally harmed by intense exercises during her acting classes. Check out this excellent article here.

My Ottawa, Canada's Capital

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